Couples Counseling in Chicago, IL

You and your partner have been struggling for the last few months, You find yourself exhausted from constantly arguing and getting nowhere. It’s one of the most challenging times in your relationship because you feel so emotionally and physically distant. The grief and loss you have experienced have only deepened this divide. You want your relationship back. It might feel hopeless where you end up not knowing what else to do.

You’re both feeling hurt and overwhelmed, and life’s pressures aren't making it any easier. It seems like everything you do or say is wrong, and you’re running out of ideas on how to help each other. Misaligned schedules add to the stress, and it’s hard to remember the last time you had a positive interaction to talk things through.

Arguments often lead to lonely nights. One of you might want to talk about what happened, while the other doesn’t. There’s a constant heaviness surrounding your relationship. Deep down, you know your relationship isn’t unhealthy or toxic, but the grief and loss you’ve faced are keeping you from connecting the way you used to.

You might have thought about couples counseling but felt unsure if it would really help. It’s scary and vulnerable to “air your dirty laundry” to a stranger, especially when you see familiar patterns from your own families emerging. Both of you have experienced past traumas that are now affecting your relationship.

How I can help!

I work with couples who are exhausted by constant arguments and are ready to rebuild the emotional safety in their relationship. We’ll work together to develop the skills needed to navigate difficult yet essential conversations. With patience and consistent practice, you and your partner will have the tools for open and meaningful discussions that feel more natural and extend beyond our sessions.

In the beginning, couples counseling may lead to awkward or heated exchanges. Together, we work to slow down and observe the patterns in your interactions — how you respond to each other (“You always…”, “You never…”, “Yes, but…”), the body language that arises for you and your partner, and the unhealthy patterns you can unlearn when navigating conflict.

Over time, you’ll feel calmer and more confident when facing challenges in your relationship. You’ll grow comfortable to sharing your vulnerabilities with your partner and begin to see disagreements as opportunities to deepen your bond. Change happens gradually as we focus on how you engage in conflict, not just on what is said.

Some week, conflicts may feel more intense, and that’s okay—it’s a natural part of the healing process. We are rebuilding a relationship system and that takes time, courage, and self-compassion. I encourage all my couples to practice the exercises we discussed in our session during the week and reflect on their experiences. Couples counseling works BEST when BOTH parties are committed to making changes to improve their relationship.

If this resonates with you, I’m here to help. Together, we can navigate through the grief and loss, rebuild your connection, and find a path forward.

Schedule a 15-minute consultation with me and see how couples counseling can support you both.

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Couples Counseling FAQs

The success of couples counseling depends largely on the commitment and effort both partners bring to the process. While it's difficult to pinpoint a specific success rate, many clients report feeling more connected and understanding toward their partners after counseling. The key is consistent work and openness, which can lead to deeper communication and stronger relationships.
The length of couples counseling depends on your goals and the level of commitment both partners bring to the process. Some couples may achieve their desired outcomes in 8-12 sessions, while others may benefit from longer-term therapy. A key factor in progress is understanding how you fight and argue outside of the sessions.
For some couples, trust needs to be built over time, while others may dive right into addressing conflicts. The pace will depend on your unique dynamics, but my focus is on helping you both create lasting change in how you communicate and relate to each other.
The best type of therapy for couples is one where both partners feel safe, heard, and emotionally supported. Therapy should create a space where trust is built, and both partners feel comfortable being open and curious about each other’s experiences and needs.
My approach focuses on fostering emotional safety, building trust, and encouraging honest communication, so you can strengthen your connection and navigate challenges together.
If couples counseling doesn't work, it can be due to various reasons, such as lack of commitment, unresolved individual issues, or incompatibility. In such cases, it may be helpful to:
Reevaluate Goals: We would reassessing and clarifying the goals of counseling together.
Try Different Approaches: We may need to consider trying different therapeutic techniques or a receive a referral to a different counselor.
Individual Counseling: Each partner may benefit from individual counseling to address personal issues.
Consider Other Options: Explore alternative solutions, such as mediation or legal advice, if the relationship cannot be reconciled.
Open Communication: Maintain open communication with your partner about your feelings and concerns regarding the process.

Couples Counseling in Chicago, IL